Dating VS Marriage

Lately I've really been reminded of how things change once you are married, as opposed to when you are dating someone and they are trying to win you over. While walking through the mall with my husband I saw a couple and the man was giving his woman a BIG warm hug. The kind of hug where you are wrapped in his bear arms and he is kissing your forehead and you feel nothing but love as he tries to console you because you're having a rough day at work. I turned to my husband and asked him "How come you never hold me like that anymore?" his reply... "I do." I stopped and thought about it... "hardly EVER! and I get no PDA anymore.. what gives?" he looks at me "we're married now."
Date night. My husband tells me he wants to take me out for a nice dinner. I'm sure you will be able to spot the differences here. About an hour before I'm ready to leave, I get rushed out the door without even a chance to straighten my hair. He's hungry and I don't need to get dolled up because we're married and he loves me and thinks I'm beautiful as is. (Sweet to say... but i'm sure this is said just to justify rushing me out the door.) We get to the restaurant which I will admit is definitely not cheap. While looking over the menu I notice a very tasty sounding luxury cocktail I'd like to try. MY husband looks at the menu and says... "I see there's no price, you can have one.. but just one." I laugh almost hysterically. I know he is half joking and half serious. "Mr. If this were our first date you wouldn't have came home with me."
A few other things that have changed.... #1 our sex lives. When it's not readily available (when you are single) you want it all the freakin time. When you are newly dating someone you spend 12 hrs a day rolling around in the sac. When you are married... it's always available and therefore you don't want it. It will be there tomorrow. So... being tired, having to work in the a.m. and wanting to watch your favourite t.v. shows are all more important than getting laid. You expect to just get some later... but them something else comes up.
#2 Farting, burping and pooping are no longer things to be embarrased of. In fact... sometimes you go into detail as to what is going on with your tummy and what's coming out of your a**.

Despite all this... the one thing that changes for the better when you are married is this. You have someone who is always there to be by your side when you need them the most. Someone who is constantly supporting anything you want to do. Someone who loves you NO MATTER WHAT. Someone who fulfills your every need. A best friend. A lover. And sometimes a shrink. Someone who you share a bond with like no other. Someone who will always answer your texts. Will never blow you off. Everything you could ever want in a person all wrapped into one that vowed to be by your side for the rest of your life.

The Rich Get Richer...

I just have to take a moment to say... what the heck is wrong with this world??? There are so many people in this world suffering from hunger, disease and homelessness.... and then there's people (Conan O'Brien) getting paid 32 MILLION dollars to NOT WORK FOR 8 MONTHS!!! Am i the only one who thinks this is absurd??
First of all... that is more than enough to live off of for half a dozen lifetimes... second of all that's what he's getting paid to NOT WORK. And finally, there are countless "stars" who get paid even more than that, often in just one year. So here's the thing... if every one of those "stars" parted with even a 1/4 of what they make in the year... we could probably solve world hunger and homelessness in just a few years. So why don't they? Quit throwing money in the toilet and start spending it on what matters!
The rich are only getting richer....

Married With 4 Legged Children

Some people walk into my house and are immediately overwhelmed by my kids. It's not very often i find someone as animal crazy as me. Alot of people love animals... but don't necessarily love everything about them. I'm one of those crazy people that really loves EVERYTHING about animals. When i'm really in a bad mood i can count on them to make me laugh... somehow. Whether it be how they look at me, interact with eachother, or how they fart and clear the room. I love them! My brother got me a book about dog co-dependency for Christmas.... and maybe i do have a problem, but what can i say? They make me happy.

Sleepless Nights

I wish i could learn how to turn my mind off and not think about ANYTHING for once. It seems like no matter what i'm doing, all day long, i have at least 5 things on my mind. If i have something i need to do... i can't relax until it's done. So needless to say when i do try to sleep... my mind is flooded with about 50 things.
Last night i tried going to bed at 10:30. I laid awake for about an hour thinking about all the things i had to do today. And then what had to be done the following day. By midnight i was beyond frustrated. Not even close to falling asleep yet, my mind wandered to a few things that had really been bothering me lately. Since i was already frustrated by not being able to sleep, thinking about this other stuff really got me irritated. It was about 1:30am by the time i drifted off, exhausted from my thoughts. SO i'm taking this time to write about what's been bothering me in hopes of getting to sleep at a decent time tonight :)

First of all...
Good friends are hard to find. I mean real friends. People that accept you for who you are. People you can trust. People who generally want the best for you... and visa versa. I've been fortunate enough to have a few friends like this over the years. However... life seems to have made us drift apart. And now i look around at all the people i know and think... are they really my friends? I mean they are my friends... but i'm missing that closeness best friends have. There's not much more to say about this except i wish i was closer with my "friends" that feel more like acquaintances. If you want to hang out... you have to call them. And then half the time they cancel. They want to look in your life through facebook... but that's about it. They see you on the street and say "we should hang out!" but we never do. Who knows... maybe this is just the way of the world today. I mean half my family is like this too. But still... i miss the closeness i had with my friends growing up.

Second...
Im really shocked at how people react when they find out neither me or my husband drink alcohol. Is it really that big of a deal??? It's always the same reaction... "Really? You don't drink? Like at all? Ever? WHY NOT!?"
We don't drink because we don't like it. We don't like how it makes us feel. We don't like feeling tipsy... and we don't like throwing up after having one too many. On occasion... maybe like once a year, we will have a drink. But we really don't like how alcohol tastes. The only thing Matt will drink is MGD. And the only think i will usually drink is Alize Red. This is something that we were pretty happy to have in common when we met.

Third...
Just because we don't drink doesn't mean we have a problem with people that do! All our friends drink and most of our family does too. It doesn't bother us to be around drunk people, in fact it's just as entertaining for someone who's sober to be at a party as it is for people who have been drinking. So just because we don't drink doesn't mean we don't want to hang out with you if you are partying!

Anyway there are other things that are bugging me but i'm going to leave those for another time. In fact... i'm following the radio's footsteps and taking Ticked Off Tuesdays to my blog. And if anyone else has something to rant about... please, feel free! Sometimes it just feels better to get it out.. and i hear, it can help you sleep better too :)

It's a new year! Again...

It's a New Year! I can't get over how fast the years fly by as i get older. I remember when i was a kid and being in such a hurry to grow up. Always wanting to reach the next big milestone in life. I couldn't wait to be a teenager, get to highschool, be able to drive, graduate, get married, buy a house etc. Well... all that's happened and now what? I'm starting to think always anticipating the next big thing in life is taking away from my enjoyment in the little things life has to offer. There's something about a new year that makes me really think about life. In the past i've made resolutions that would help make me a "better person." And while quitting smoking, saving money, exercising and volunteering more are all great things... this year i want to have fun! That's right, my resolution this year is to have more fun and enjoy life more.
In celebration of what i think is the best resolution ever :) i went shopping! Cheers! To the New Year, and all the FUN i'm going to have...